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Through the Looking Glass of a 5150
There’s no need pretending that life is perfect. We tend to want to box up our problems and then only lift a corner to peek inside every once in a while. We never unpack them, or, if we do, they come out all at once and it’s usually not a healthy process. Why are people so afraid of their feelings? It’s almost like we are unable to open up and say out loud, “yes, that hurt me.” I don’t think that is a bad thing at all. In fact, I think people should be encouraged to learn how to communicate their emotions in a healthy way. All too often people…
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Shut The F**k Up: My Stretchmarks Are Sexy
The Other day I was out Running Errands. I decided to stop at the gas station. As i was there, a young girl, maybe 22, came up to me and asked me if i knew that my stretch marks were showing. I was really confused. I wasn’t even sure if there was anyone behind me or if she was actually talking to me. I think just the context of what she said, to a total stranger, it kind of threw me off for a second. Then it registered. I couldn’t believe that someone could be so bold to a total stranger. It was early in the morning and I was…
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From Broken To Badass
Anyone who has ever gone through a divorce knows that you’re fragile. You’ve been through some of the worst pain imaginable, aside from dealing with death. It is a death of sorts, especially if you have a family. Everyone suffers. Nobody gets out of a divorce in one piece. I was broken after my divorce. I’m not going to try to pretend I wasn’t. I spent over 20 years with my ex-husband. I met him as a teenager. We grew up together. It was one of those relationships that don’t happen much anymore. It’s rare to see people who met as teenagers still together after that time. My devastation at…
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Passion vs Crazy: How Women are Often Misunderstood
She’s crazy. She’s psycho. She’s just a crazy bitch who wants to make my life miserable. All too often, women are misunderstood. Yes, we are emotional creatures, but the way we channel those emotions is often misunderstood. I’m often called crazy. My ex-husband and his family seem to delight in telling anyone who will listen, what an unstable person I am. What they fail to see, though, is that some of these things they are labelling as crazy is really just passion. For example, I’m in the middle of trying to lock down a solid co parenting schedule with my ex-husband. He is a tough person to communicate with. Everything…
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I Am: Why Showing Up Can Be the Hardest Battle in Life
“You just need to get your foot in the door…” A friend’s statement got me thinking. Getting your foot in the door can be one of the biggest hurdles in life and easier said than done . Especially after living a life of chaos and trauma. I found myself trapped in my studio. Isolated. Staying isolated was not a way of living a healthy, fulfilling life for me. My trauma had me paralyzed at times. What does healing actually look like? That was the question I asked myself. We can argue over semantics of the true meaning of the word, it was the matter that I was searching for. Let…
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About Juliet- Stagi vs Ramos
Dear Reader- The video above was what could have been a beautiful life for my children and I. We were adapting to our new life (post divorce). We were already broken, the day I left my ex husband. Even though we were divorced,I always thought we would have each other’s best interest at hearts- no matter what. I never thought in a million years my ex husband would do what he did to my children and I. We will never be the same.
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10 Things Guys Wish all Women Knew
Ok ladies. It’s time for me to reveal a few secrets about men that you might not have thought about. You might be surprised to find that men are more complex than you might think. Sure, guys think about sex…a lot, but they also think about you as well. It’s not always sex, beer, sports, sex, and sex. BrokenGirl gets a decent amount of messages from people, mostly women, who can’t seem to figure out the behaviors of their men. Well, wait no longer. We got you covered. If you want a quick glimpse into the mind of a man, here you go. What follows is a little peek into…
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Truth Bomb: Her Girlfriends Know All About You
So, you met a new woman. She’s beautiful, smart, funny, sexy…the total package. You’ve actually kept some of your private details away from boy’s night. Don’t get me wrong. We all know that men are pretty forthcoming about the women they date. We’re just not detail oriented. Let me break it down for the ladies reading this. This is how it works: Friends: How’s that new woman you’re dating? Man: She’s pretty cool. Friends: Yeah? You hit it yet? Man: Yeah Friends: Sweet. (Talking to other friends present) He’s going to be pussy whipped in two weeks. Man: Fuck that…you know me Friends: Well, we’re happy for you bro. Man:…
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To Be a Child Again
Mommy Diaries: To Be a Child Again Remember not having a care in the world? Remember not knowing the concept of money? Do you ever remember looking up to your parents and thinking how it felt to be that tall? Remember when you naturally trusted people ? Do you remember not knowing what stress was? Or what it was like to be a parent? Pay bills? Or waking up, hoping and praying that today wasn’t the day that depression or anxiety didn’t hit you like oncoming traffic? How about (my personal favorite) having a difficult co parent who constantly drops the proverbial ball and tries to gaslight you for his…
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The Subtle Art of Being a Gentleman
I remember when I was a boy I would always see the old imagery of the guy putting down his coat to cover a puddle so his lady wouldn’t get her shoes wet. As a boy, I thought that when I grew up the world would be full of these puddles and all I needed was to carry around a coat that I didn’t mind getting wet. Seemed easy enough. As I became a man, I realized there was a lot more to chivalry and being a gentleman than those old time movies would lead me to believe. Women are fucking complex to say the least, but they all want…
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The Butterfly Effect
The Butterfly effect: n. (With reference to chaos theory) The phenomenon whereby a minute localized change in a complex system can have large effects elsewhere. I was thinking about past events recently and pondering on the effect those events would have had if I was successful in my own attempt on my life. It’s a morbid thought for sure, but it is something that has plagued me for a very long time. I started to think about how that event, had I been successful, would have impacted my family, friends, and loved ones. They would still be feeling those effects to this day. My children would have grown up without…
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The Devil Beside You: Narcissistic Traits vs Narcissism
Recently, I’ve had my share of WTF moments. Truth be told, I feel like I’ve been bathing in them. They flow over me like drops of water. Well, not exactly water, they are more like large gobs of mud, sticking to me. They’re pretty difficult to wash off. My what the fuck moments lately have been a result of my dealings with my narcissistic co-parent. I’ve written and talked about this before, and I thought that my understanding of the issue would be beneficial to my current situation. Don’t underestimate the power of someone whose only goal in life seems to be satisfying their own desire for revenge. It’s tough…
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Sex Education- Men, How Strong Is Your Foreplay Game?
Men, How Strong Is Your Foreplay Game? We all know that foreplay is important in a healthy sex life. We’ve probably been schooled over and over about the necessity and, for many of you men, the lessons have been internalized. For others, however, there is not as much importance placed on the time spent before the actual act of sex begins. Many people see it as a necessary evil of sorts to make sure that your lady is properly lubed up and ready to go. Please, don’t be that guy. There’ so much more to having a strong foreplay game than you initially might have thought. It is so much…
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I am Honored to Announce…
I am honored to announce …. December 27th, 2019, 9am-10am I have been invited to be a guest speaker here in Modesto, CA. As the owner/operator of BrokenGirl Unchained Blog & Podcast, I will be speaking publicly at Turning Point Empowerment Community Program: A path to Mental Health of Stanislaus County. EMPOWERMENT CENTER is a culturally diverse center where behavioral health consumers and their support persons and/or family members can gain peer support and recovery-oriented input from others to reduce isolation, increase the ability to develop independence, and create linkages to mental health and substance abuse treatment services. It is also a safe and friendly environment where they can flourish…
