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The Challenges of Co-parenting With a Narcissist
divorce sucks. it doesn’t just suck, it sucks in a way that most other things never will. it completely sucks the life out of you. I’ve experienced a lot of shit in my life and watching my kids deal with the aftermath of my divorce has been nothing short of total emotional chaos. I’m an adult. I make my choices and I have to live with them. I’m strong enough to handle the consequences of my actions. Children, however, lack the emotional capacity to really persevere when their family falls apart. Especially if your children are teenagers. Their emotional state is in the infancy of its development and they are…
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10 Signs Your Relationship is Dead
Every relationship has its share of ups and downs. That’s just part of life. Sure you’re going to have days that the two of you are madly in love, and other days where you can’t stand the sight of them. Sometimes, those days where you are crazy in love become more infrequent, and the days you want to do something that might get you 10-20 increase exponentially. Before it gets to the point where you have to start doing time and getting yourself ready for your new prison girlfriend, there are definitely warning signs that your relationship is over. For me, I experienced each and every one of these personally……
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10 Sings You’re In Love with a Narcissist
Your relationship with a narcissist will be nothing short of manic. it will be completely addictive. In fact, more addictive in nature than any other relationship you’ve ever experienced in the past. Why? It’s fairly simple. A narcissist isn’t capable of having a normal relationship. The narcissist will only have a relationship that fits their terms. They don’t share. Narcissists are frustratingly charming and charismatic. They are the type who will sweep you off your feet because YOU are the prize they are after. Every girl wants to be swept off their feet. We’ve been conditioned from and early age to look for our version of Prince Charming. How many…
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Keep My Name Out of Your Mouth
Once the respect is gone from a relationship, the love is soon to follow. I know this all to clearly, as I’m sure many of you out there do as well. I could almost change it to say that once the love is gone, so is the respect. These two items seem to go hand in hand. That’s fine if you don’t have anything connecting yourself to the other person, but what about when you have children? What about when you are trying to raise children into strong adults and you have to still try to work with this other person? That takes a decent amount of respect. Especially if…
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Shut The F**k Up: My Stretchmarks Are Sexy
The Other day I was out Running Errands. I decided to stop at the gas station. As i was there, a young girl, maybe 22, came up to me and asked me if i knew that my stretch marks were showing. I was really confused. I wasn’t even sure if there was anyone behind me or if she was actually talking to me. I think just the context of what she said, to a total stranger, it kind of threw me off for a second. Then it registered. I couldn’t believe that someone could be so bold to a total stranger. It was early in the morning and I was…
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Don’t Date a Man Like Dad: Advice From a Mother to Her Daughter
Recently, I was consoling my daughter about the troubles she was having with her ex-boyfriend, post breakup. Teenagers, especially teenage girls, are emotional creatures. We all know this. It seems with the newfound movement of “girl power,” it’s no longer ok to admit that women are emotional creatures. It’s nothing against the feminist movement, and I’m not putting women back 200 years by admitting this well-known fact. All I’m saying is that we are more driven by our emotions than our male counterparts. She was telling me about the details of her breakup and I started to notice some similarities between the way her ex was treating her and the…
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Table for Two…Saucer of Milk: Why Women Are Bitches To Other Women
I’m not a bitch. I just have no problem telling you where to go and how fast you can get there. Ladies, have you ever walked into a crowded room and had a girl look you over from top to bottom? Giving the impression that, for some reason yet unstated, this chick thinks you’re competition. It’s obvious she’s sizing you up and sees you as a threat of some sort. Whatever that “threat” might be is unknown, but it’s obvious that there is a problem. The room starts to shrink down a bit and the tension becomes very thick. For me, I become very socially awkward and start looking for…
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Girl Code Part 1: 5 Unwritten Rules For Dealing With Your Girlfriend’s Man
Girl Code: Podcast 17 Girl Code: 5 Unwritten Rules For Dealing With Your Girlfriend’s Man Every woman has heard about girl code. If you haven’t, where have you been hiding? The boys think they set the standard with their “bro code” but, sorry boys, you don’t even know. Girl code is simple. It’s about looking out for one another in a world that seems to always want to pit us against each other. Other women aren’t your rivals, yet we seem to be the most competitive among ourselves. Why? Being a strong woman is something that should be celebrated. We should see another woman and be supportive and understanding.…
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From Broken To Badass
Anyone who has ever gone through a divorce knows that you’re fragile. You’ve been through some of the worst pain imaginable, aside from dealing with death. It is a death of sorts, especially if you have a family. Everyone suffers. Nobody gets out of a divorce in one piece. I was broken after my divorce. I’m not going to try to pretend I wasn’t. I spent over 20 years with my ex-husband. I met him as a teenager. We grew up together. It was one of those relationships that don’t happen much anymore. It’s rare to see people who met as teenagers still together after that time. My devastation at…
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Torch It: Finding Closure With Your Past
I burned it. I took a lighter, lit that motherfucker on fire, and burned it to ashes. The “it” I’m talking about was pictures of the two people who hurt me the most. I knew then it was okay to let go when I torched those bitches. To let go of the past, the pain on top of pain, the wounds they both left behind when they both gave up on me. They both gave up on their family. My ex husband gave up being a man/husband and a father he once was. He hasn’t been the same father since the separation. Most definitely not the father I thought he…
