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I Am: Why Showing Up Can Be the Hardest Battle in Life
“You just need to get your foot in the door…” A friend’s statement got me thinking. Getting your foot in the door can be one of the biggest hurdles in life and easier said than done . Especially after living a life of chaos and trauma. I found myself trapped in my studio. Isolated. Staying isolated was not a way of living a healthy, fulfilling life for me. My trauma had me paralyzed at times. What does healing actually look like? That was the question I asked myself. We can argue over semantics of the true meaning of the word, it was the matter that I was searching for. Let…
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About Juliet- Stagi vs Ramos
Dear Reader- The video above was what could have been a beautiful life for my children and I. We were adapting to our new life (post divorce). We were already broken, the day I left my ex husband. Even though we were divorced,I always thought we would have each other’s best interest at hearts- no matter what. I never thought in a million years my ex husband would do what he did to my children and I. We will never be the same.
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10 Things Guys Wish all Women Knew
Ok ladies. It’s time for me to reveal a few secrets about men that you might not have thought about. You might be surprised to find that men are more complex than you might think. Sure, guys think about sex…a lot, but they also think about you as well. It’s not always sex, beer, sports, sex, and sex. BrokenGirl gets a decent amount of messages from people, mostly women, who can’t seem to figure out the behaviors of their men. Well, wait no longer. We got you covered. If you want a quick glimpse into the mind of a man, here you go. What follows is a little peek into…
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To Be a Child Again
Mommy Diaries: To Be a Child Again Remember not having a care in the world? Remember not knowing the concept of money? Do you ever remember looking up to your parents and thinking how it felt to be that tall? Remember when you naturally trusted people ? Do you remember not knowing what stress was? Or what it was like to be a parent? Pay bills? Or waking up, hoping and praying that today wasn’t the day that depression or anxiety didn’t hit you like oncoming traffic? How about (my personal favorite) having a difficult co parent who constantly drops the proverbial ball and tries to gaslight you for his…
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The Butterfly Effect
The Butterfly effect: n. (With reference to chaos theory) The phenomenon whereby a minute localized change in a complex system can have large effects elsewhere. I was thinking about past events recently and pondering on the effect those events would have had if I was successful in my own attempt on my life. It’s a morbid thought for sure, but it is something that has plagued me for a very long time. I started to think about how that event, had I been successful, would have impacted my family, friends, and loved ones. They would still be feeling those effects to this day. My children would have grown up without…
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The Devil Beside You: Narcissistic Traits vs Narcissism
Recently, I’ve had my share of WTF moments. Truth be told, I feel like I’ve been bathing in them. They flow over me like drops of water. Well, not exactly water, they are more like large gobs of mud, sticking to me. They’re pretty difficult to wash off. My what the fuck moments lately have been a result of my dealings with my narcissistic co-parent. I’ve written and talked about this before, and I thought that my understanding of the issue would be beneficial to my current situation. Don’t underestimate the power of someone whose only goal in life seems to be satisfying their own desire for revenge. It’s tough…
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Sex Education- Men, How Strong Is Your Foreplay Game?
Men, How Strong Is Your Foreplay Game? We all know that foreplay is important in a healthy sex life. We’ve probably been schooled over and over about the necessity and, for many of you men, the lessons have been internalized. For others, however, there is not as much importance placed on the time spent before the actual act of sex begins. Many people see it as a necessary evil of sorts to make sure that your lady is properly lubed up and ready to go. Please, don’t be that guy. There’ so much more to having a strong foreplay game than you initially might have thought. It is so much…
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I am Honored to Announce…
I am honored to announce …. December 27th, 2019, 9am-10am I have been invited to be a guest speaker here in Modesto, CA. As the owner/operator of BrokenGirl Unchained Blog & Podcast, I will be speaking publicly at Turning Point Empowerment Community Program: A path to Mental Health of Stanislaus County. EMPOWERMENT CENTER is a culturally diverse center where behavioral health consumers and their support persons and/or family members can gain peer support and recovery-oriented input from others to reduce isolation, increase the ability to develop independence, and create linkages to mental health and substance abuse treatment services. It is also a safe and friendly environment where they can flourish…
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Her Safe Room
This place…I fuckin hate this place. This place feels like one of the group homes (I used to live in when I was a kid) every time my mom kicked me out or beat the shit out of me. Her version of “having no more room in her heart to love me because you’re too hard to love.” That tough of love type of home she would send me to. Rejection. Fuckin rejection. I hate that word. Feeling rejection at such a young age is a feeling I’m forced to walk with every day. Rejection and abandonment.Two things I fear most in life God, how can I be so stupid.…
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BrokenGirl’s Guide to Being a Boss Bitch after Heartbreak
We’ve all seen that scene from waiting to exhale where Angela Basset catches her man cheating and sets his car on fire. She walks away like the motherfucking boss all women want to be. Recently, I’ve been talking with a listener from my podcast who is dealing with the aftermath of a breakup. She is a beautiful, intelligent, successful, and inspirational woman and mother. However, she doesn’t see any of this right now. She had been gaslighted into thinking that she was the core of all their problems. She was the psychopathic villain (in his story) that he needed to justify his mistreatment of her. Every issue in the relationship, was…
