Divorce
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Through the Looking Glass of a 5150
There’s no need pretending that life is perfect. We tend to want to box up our problems and then only lift a corner to peek inside every once in a while. We never unpack them, or, if we do, they come out all at once and it’s usually not a healthy process. Why are people so afraid of their feelings? It’s almost like we are unable to open up and say out loud, “yes, that hurt me.” I don’t think that is a bad thing at all. In fact, I think people should be encouraged to learn how to communicate their emotions in a healthy way. All too often people…
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How to Be a Lobster- 5 Signs To Healing
Everyone has experienced some type of pain. If they say they never have, they’re lying. We’re human. We all have feelings with emotions. At some point we have all loved and you have lost. Healing is not easy. Healing is one of the most challenging parts of finding yourself on your own once again. Healing is painful. There are no shortcuts. You will break, you will experience a certain amount of physical and emotional suffering. It’s difficult to believe, when you are mired in so much emotional chaos, that one day you actually won’t feel that anymore. We’re Human. We all have feelings with emotions. At some point we all…
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The Hidden Truth Behind Unconditional Love.
The Hidden Truth Behind Unconditional Love. I’ve received countless emails about my healing process. “What did you do to heal? ” is always the question. I never know how to answer this question. For me, I don’t think I’m completely healed. I don’t think I’ll ever be 100% healed. I will forever walk with these scars. I know it’s not the answer most of you that are looking for that ‘quick fix’ you want to hear. Trust me when I say, I woke up each morning praying that today might be that day God was going to heal my broken heart. It was that slow burn that was fuckin’ killing…
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For the Love of Porn
porn…so much controversy surrounding the topic. sex, in general, is still a taboo subject for so many people. It’s ironic, really, that our society glorifies violence but shuns sex. Little Timmy can watch 100 hours of violent images but, god forbid, a titty pops up on the screen. That’s when all hell breaks loose. Let’s face it, we are still primal in certain aspects, and we are born to breed. For men, they have thousands of years of history that tells them to spread their seed as far and wide as possible. Why do we try to ignore this fact? Anyone with a teenage son knows they are a ball…
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To My Little Girl on the Swing
Dear Daughter, This is an open letter to the little girl I raised into a woman. I know you don’t want to acknowledge my influence on your life, but I feel it necessary to voice my rebuttal. You see, everything I’ve loved and lost has claw marks. You always have seen the world in black and grey. Your version of the truth is not the actual truth, and I feel I need to set the record straight. Seeing the reality of it all, those black and gray areas (that I once fought for) have so much more color. At the time of this letter, one of those areas is my…
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A Selfie A Day- The Truth Behind the Lens
I’m a picture addict. I love to capture moments. Even the smallest, most seemingly insignificant moments I like to capture. Those are memories. Once they are gone, those moments can’t be recreated. I’ve always been a picture taker. Even when I was young, I always kept a collage of pictures on my wall. They were my memories on display and I could relive them every time I looked up. …I absolutely hated myself. Most of us like to relive the happy moments, but what happens when you stop seeing the beauty of your daily life? What happens when you don’t feel there are any moments worth capturing? For me, I’ve…
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The Challenges of Co-parenting With a Narcissist
divorce sucks. it doesn’t just suck, it sucks in a way that most other things never will. it completely sucks the life out of you. I’ve experienced a lot of shit in my life and watching my kids deal with the aftermath of my divorce has been nothing short of total emotional chaos. I’m an adult. I make my choices and I have to live with them. I’m strong enough to handle the consequences of my actions. Children, however, lack the emotional capacity to really persevere when their family falls apart. Especially if your children are teenagers. Their emotional state is in the infancy of its development and they are…
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10 Signs Your Relationship is Dead
Every relationship has its share of ups and downs. That’s just part of life. Sure you’re going to have days that the two of you are madly in love, and other days where you can’t stand the sight of them. Sometimes, those days where you are crazy in love become more infrequent, and the days you want to do something that might get you 10-20 increase exponentially. Before it gets to the point where you have to start doing time and getting yourself ready for your new prison girlfriend, there are definitely warning signs that your relationship is over. For me, I experienced each and every one of these personally……
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10 Sings You’re In Love with a Narcissist
Your relationship with a narcissist will be nothing short of manic. it will be completely addictive. In fact, more addictive in nature than any other relationship you’ve ever experienced in the past. Why? It’s fairly simple. A narcissist isn’t capable of having a normal relationship. The narcissist will only have a relationship that fits their terms. They don’t share. Narcissists are frustratingly charming and charismatic. They are the type who will sweep you off your feet because YOU are the prize they are after. Every girl wants to be swept off their feet. We’ve been conditioned from and early age to look for our version of Prince Charming. How many…
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Keep My Name Out of Your Mouth
Once the respect is gone from a relationship, the love is soon to follow. I know this all to clearly, as I’m sure many of you out there do as well. I could almost change it to say that once the love is gone, so is the respect. These two items seem to go hand in hand. That’s fine if you don’t have anything connecting yourself to the other person, but what about when you have children? What about when you are trying to raise children into strong adults and you have to still try to work with this other person? That takes a decent amount of respect. Especially if…
