Divorce
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Shut The F**k Up: My Stretchmarks Are Sexy
The Other day I was out Running Errands. I decided to stop at the gas station. As i was there, a young girl, maybe 22, came up to me and asked me if i knew that my stretch marks were showing. I was really confused. I wasn’t even sure if there was anyone behind me or if she was actually talking to me. I think just the context of what she said, to a total stranger, it kind of threw me off for a second. Then it registered. I couldn’t believe that someone could be so bold to a total stranger. It was early in the morning and I was…
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Don’t Date a Man Like Dad: Advice From a Mother to Her Daughter
Recently, I was consoling my daughter about the troubles she was having with her ex-boyfriend, post breakup. Teenagers, especially teenage girls, are emotional creatures. We all know this. It seems with the newfound movement of “girl power,” it’s no longer ok to admit that women are emotional creatures. It’s nothing against the feminist movement, and I’m not putting women back 200 years by admitting this well-known fact. All I’m saying is that we are more driven by our emotions than our male counterparts. She was telling me about the details of her breakup and I started to notice some similarities between the way her ex was treating her and the…
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Table for Two…Saucer of Milk: Why Women Are Bitches To Other Women
I’m not a bitch. I just have no problem telling you where to go and how fast you can get there. Ladies, have you ever walked into a crowded room and had a girl look you over from top to bottom? Giving the impression that, for some reason yet unstated, this chick thinks you’re competition. It’s obvious she’s sizing you up and sees you as a threat of some sort. Whatever that “threat” might be is unknown, but it’s obvious that there is a problem. The room starts to shrink down a bit and the tension becomes very thick. For me, I become very socially awkward and start looking for…
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Girl Code Part 1: 5 Unwritten Rules For Dealing With Your Girlfriend’s Man
Girl Code: Podcast 17 Girl Code: 5 Unwritten Rules For Dealing With Your Girlfriend’s Man Every woman has heard about girl code. If you haven’t, where have you been hiding? The boys think they set the standard with their “bro code” but, sorry boys, you don’t even know. Girl code is simple. It’s about looking out for one another in a world that seems to always want to pit us against each other. Other women aren’t your rivals, yet we seem to be the most competitive among ourselves. Why? Being a strong woman is something that should be celebrated. We should see another woman and be supportive and understanding.…
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From Broken To Badass
Anyone who has ever gone through a divorce knows that you’re fragile. You’ve been through some of the worst pain imaginable, aside from dealing with death. It is a death of sorts, especially if you have a family. Everyone suffers. Nobody gets out of a divorce in one piece. I was broken after my divorce. I’m not going to try to pretend I wasn’t. I spent over 20 years with my ex-husband. I met him as a teenager. We grew up together. It was one of those relationships that don’t happen much anymore. It’s rare to see people who met as teenagers still together after that time. My devastation at…
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Torch It: Finding Closure With Your Past
I burned it. I took a lighter, lit that motherfucker on fire, and burned it to ashes. The “it” I’m talking about was pictures of the two people who hurt me the most. I knew then it was okay to let go when I torched those bitches. To let go of the past, the pain on top of pain, the wounds they both left behind when they both gave up on me. They both gave up on their family. My ex husband gave up being a man/husband and a father he once was. He hasn’t been the same father since the separation. Most definitely not the father I thought he…
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Passion vs Crazy: How Women are Often Misunderstood
She’s crazy. She’s psycho. She’s just a crazy bitch who wants to make my life miserable. All too often, women are misunderstood. Yes, we are emotional creatures, but the way we channel those emotions is often misunderstood. I’m often called crazy. My ex-husband and his family seem to delight in telling anyone who will listen, what an unstable person I am. What they fail to see, though, is that some of these things they are labelling as crazy is really just passion. For example, I’m in the middle of trying to lock down a solid co parenting schedule with my ex-husband. He is a tough person to communicate with. Everything…
